Andrew Sinatra: No, your folks are trying to help you to remember things. You shouldn't have mentioned still having access to your laptop . . . . you'd really freak out if they got on answers and read your question, & then decided, "HEY WE SHOULD TAKE "THAT" AWAY , too"
Jeff Frizzell: Well I am a take charge kind of person and on the business end of things, such as mowing the lawn, taking the car in for repair, etc I would either try it myself or hire it out. I know how to call a handyman. As for all the other stuff related to raising the kids, doctor apptments, paperwork from the schools, etc etc....I do almost all of that exclusively, so hubby would be the one in for a shock on that front. He does pitch in a lot when it comes to cooking and grocery shopping, so to have no more help in those areas would be tough, but not shocking.I was actually thinking about it yesterday, I could not even being to imagine raising kids alone, I'm not saying I couldn't do it, b! ecause like I said, I'm a take charge kind of person, but I know how hard it is to get every thing done now and I've got a great husband and we make a good team, so to be without that and raising kids.....WOW. I don't want to go there.As you can tell biggest shock would come from the emotional side of things....there are some things that I know I could never replace, like all of us snuggling in the bed or on the couch watching spongebob....the kids actually want BOTH parents with them at these times. My heart would hurt for them so much....Show more
Hwa Waterford: I just said, "Sorry, I left it in the guitar and I didn't remember to take it out."
Boris Hadsall: If the financial isn't included in this, then my role would not change. I would lose the cooking on the weekend breaks but beyond that all things would remain the same.
Carlee Tangaro: Good point, finding uniforms second hand in wearable condition can be tough, near impossible really.
Rebbec! ca Sorkin: When will it end? When she wants a $500 phone? when! she wants a $1000 audio system? when she wants $5000 in designer clothes? How about a $300,000 lamborgini? You can't give your child every single thing they want .. because some day she will need to survive on her own - and if you have "given" her everything how will she know how to survive?
Long Woltjer: there isn't much that i wouldn't be able to handle myself. seeing as how i am a stay at home mom my biggest challenge would be to find a job that would pay enough to take care of all the bills other then that the only thing my husband does that i don't have a clue on is fixing things like appliances or fixing up the house (putting up dry wall and such). so other then work and being the handy man im pretty sure i would be ok. i handle everything else in the house. i think my husband would be more lost then i would....Show more
Kenneth Blacker: I voiced my take on a previous question which is since you now have to buy two wardrobes for your kids it is actually m! ore costly (not that I am against uniforms, I think they really improve a school with their appearance). What do you think, increase savings or increase spending?
Kaylee Schmittou: at this point in time its what scares me the most about being a sahm. not the doing things part but the money. im a strong woman with a loving family who i know would help me if i asked, which btw i probably would never do, i do have complete confidence i could handle the day to day stuff. the concern is relying on someone else completely for money. i took myself out of the work force almost 4 years ago. if i had a degree that might not be such a big deal but i dont. and even with a good resume (for someone my age and experience) in this economy i dont know how i would do the financial side at this point. kinda what keeps me here when id otherwise rather not....Show more
Jackelyn Archut: This is why when women get married they should do college online or college normally in a 4! -year school so they can take care of theirselves and their kids if the! ir husband dies or they get divorced. My husband is paying for my schooling and encouraging me to get a degree so I can take care of myself if he were to die or become handicapped and couldn't work. He feels better knowing I'm working toward my degree and will be able to take care of myself and our future kids if something ever took him away from me....Show more
Chastity Doderer: you could disable the noise by urgent domicile button (the only which feels like a house) on the wii distant then bypass to distant settings and then set the sound element bar contained in the middle to 0 desire it enables
Magda Vandergriend: I guess that depends on how many times your parents had to remind you to stop leaving it in there. You still have your laptop, so how much does being grounded really matter anyway.
Cletus Makler: Crash, kids find all kids of ways to express themselves in school uniforms. The girls spend lots of time in the bathroom when they are supposed ! to be in homeroom tramping it up for the boys. Oops, I mean, expressing their individuality.In neighborhoods where only brand name clothes area acceptable, it can save money. The kid only needs one or two outfits per season. I know that kids don't *need* Ecko clothes, but where I worked, it was name brand or get beat up. So you can buy the Dickey's pants and some Target brand shirts to get you through the whole year (and the pants will last another year if your child doesn't grow too much) and just a few of the precious name band pieces, plus sweats for PE class.I don't buy name brand for my kids, but I once worked and lived in a very rough neighborhood where labels were everything. Uniforms saved the parents a lot of money....Show more
Demetrius Coaster: The only problem I would have would be financially. My husband makes way more than I did when I worked, so I would have a hard time keeping up with all the bills. Other than that, we take turns cutting the grass! , and I'm pretty handy around the house.
Ron Keliipio: Ugh.My fia! nce does maintenance and A/C work for a living. That is his job. He fixes everything at home. We have a young school kid that mows our lawn for a fee every 2 weeks.I would have to hire somebody. I am going to be honest here, I don't know how to fix a darn thing and I don't even know how to get the lawn mower to start.My future mother in law works for H&R Block so she does our taxes. I do the laundry.He actually does MOST of the cooking only because he went to chef school for a year before he decided to go into HVAC so he truly enjoys cooking.Wow, what a question, I really feel helpless right now....Show more
Bethanie Menden: Most uniforms are simply a color pants like navy or khaki and pollo or button down shirt fo a color which can be found anywhere even the good will. Target and Walmart cary uniforms for really cheap. Also for older kids you really only need like three pairs of pants. When I was in school that is all most of my friends had we had 5 shirts and thr! ee pants and we re wore them all week.fETA There is less of a need for a full additional wordrobe since they will only wear it on weekends.ETA2Gator is right about them showing up at Target and Walmart. They did not have them here till the school districts made the change a few years ago. Also The Goodwill now has uniform section. As kids grow out of them parents are donating them. So you can find them in the second hand shops now also...Show more
Thurman Buege: When a child is spoiled, it means that they are never happy with what they have, and are always asking for bigger/better gifts. So if you buy something for your daughter, and her eyes light up, and she gives you a hug and thanks you, and then plays with whatever it is, and involves you in her games, and tells people what a great parent she has, then she's not spoiled. On the other hand, if she shrugs and takes the item, and a couple of days later has forgotten about it, or complains that it's not the latest o! ne, then she's spoiled....Show more
Krystal Cordovano: Yeah. You ! shouldn't get punished for it. I don't it is that serious. Well at least you still have your laptop. My laptop broke 2 days ago and now I have use a PDA the size of an iphone to type. I have to poke each lette on the screen with a pen. =((((
Ronnie Barcus: what does that mean? why do you remove it from a guitar
Micah Schwarcz: Since I was a single mom for awhile, I learned some "man" tasks. Car stuff however, would be lost on me. Timing would be the biggest issue.....
Mack Ukich: At my sons' school they wear uniforms. I really don't mind, but I don't think it is saving us any real money because sometimes the uniforms cost more than regular clothes. I don't want to dress my child in the same pair of pants and shirt every other day. Fortunately as long as the clothes are the right color and the pants have belt loops they are not real picky about the uniforms.
Kip Ockenfels: I have always been careful never to put myself in the position of total depen! dency financially on a man, I have my own stuff, safe, for just such an emergency. I am in a ltr, it would be hard to be a single mom again, but I think I could deal, due to my being prepared. My best friend just went through a messy divorce and ended up living with me for awhile because he had everything, and she had no idea how to survive on her own. It was bad for her and the kids, she has since got a job and remarried, but that was hard to watch....Show more
Rashad Marecki: I know i would be fine on my own..I got out of an abusive marriage and took care of my boys by myself. (my ex has nothing to do with them now)..I just got remarried to my soulmate and he is wonderful and really babies me but i know if i had to I can do it again..I just dont want too cause he is great with my boys..we are ttc baby #3 now!But I am so use to him now it would be hard to manage without him..He does EVERYTHING! He works his butt off all day at work than comes home and works outside..! he even helps me with the housework..he can do anything..I am so lucky!! He is a worker for sure something i am not use too.....Show more
Lupe Sancen: Uniforms definitely save money.
Hal Rouse: Other than the financial or emotional part I'd be fine. I've been a single parent to my daughter her entire life before I met my fiance. At the beginning I still lived with my parents and during that short time I was able to get myself on my feet, move out, take care of fix-ups.I have found it to be a little difficult learning to share responsibilities with my fiance. I expected to be sharing the duties of cleaning and taking care of the kids, and its not happening the way I thought it was....Show more
Lady Laflin: Absolutely youre parents make mistakes every day ..this is insane bro
Catheryn Small: Raise my teenage sister for a week. That should answer your question.
Morris Olexy: I am pretty confident that certain family members could pull some strings for me to get on my feet, seeing as how I've been a SAHM for 7 years. W! ithout them, it would be very difficult for me since I'm mostly deaf and my work experience is basically photography and that's it.I'm also extremely lucky to truly know the sort of person my husband is. Even on his worst enemy, he couldn't let them suffer without offering help. He would never allow me or the kids to go without during my transition if we split up. And he if passed, we do have enough life insurance to help me transition. As for things around the house. I could do a lot of it. But as for repairing things and taxes etc.. I would have to say I would rely on my parents until I got the hang of it- but I have no doubt that I WOULD get the hang of it. It would be tough for me because my husband works from home mostly, and things are pretty equal here. There isn't really one of us who does more in the day than the other. So I think either of us taking on everything, would be a shock and need a lot of time adjusting.How bout you?...Show more
Clement Viscarro: A! side form the yard work (yeah, I have never mowed either) I'd be fine. ! I would have a lot more to do, but I know how to do it. I already manage all the finances, bills, insurance, doctors, etc. just becasue I am better at it (I pay them on time..lol). DH does pretty much 50% of everything else, so the workload would be more, but I would find a way. That sure would nix my SAHM dream though. I think I would move my mom in with me asap to help out.
Azalee Ahrendes: same here smile, we both do a lot and i think it would be a shock to either of us to pick up everything the other person usually does. i have never in my life mowed the lawn (how lame is that?) and my husband is so handy that i'm used to broken things being repaired before i even notice a problem. it strikes me i have some things to learn.
Monica Voltin: you think thats bad, my mom threatened to give me up for adoption just for talking back to her. thems the brakes kid. deal with it
Marty Tichnell: Aside from finacial and emotional things i'd be fine honestly. I kno! w how to fix more things than my SO does, i've been on my own before raising kids. Right now as it stands i am usually the one that handles the finaces, repairs broken things, calls others to do what i can't, handle doctor's appointments and so on. He does help out with a lot and i'm thankful for it....but i'm glad that i know also how to do things on my own....Show more
Eleni Mccier: Well i have run my own home since i was 16 years old whether being in a relationship or not i have always managed the bills, housework and house repairs, i learnt myself how to do things like plumb in a washer and install a cooker because i couldn't afford to pay someone. I also know i could manage the kids on my own too. So practially i would be fine emotionally i would crumble.
Gordon Showes: I have 4 children and i could safely say that i could manage on my own. Some women aren't so lucky to have there partners help out, i do most things on my own now and i've been with my partn! er 10yrs.
Ty Kirton: I think I would be prepared this time around! . My husband and I will be married for 10yrs this July and 5yrs ago he left me and we were seperating/ divorcing for 1yr. The biggest shock for me was that I had just given birth, had 2 foster kids, no job and I had dropped out of college when I got married. Mostly I was scared that I couldn't do it. I am currently a stay at home mom and full time college student, I will be getting my degree next year and I am more confident of myself and my abilities..I would just be worried on how I would pay rent and daycare since my kids are 4 and 2 and not in school full time...and since my MIL helps me with the kids...if we split up I know she won't help me...when he left me if was cause HE was seeing someone else and they were so mean to me and treated me like crap...Like I was the one that cheated and left...that is the main thing I would worry about......Show more
Berry Gilmore: operationally, i'd be fine. i handle most of the stuff anyway --the control freak that i am-- fro! m making money, budgeting, insurances, car loan, and anything and everything that has to do with the kids.however, the home will be a wreck (my husband is quite the handyman), and my boys will be bored (my husband is the happy, active, jump-on-the-couch, play-ball-in-the-living-room parent).so emotionally, i'd be a mess....Show more
Brock Hladik: Yes. She will expect you to buy her everything she asks for and become a nightmare if you ever say no.
Joni Ziak: I know I would. My husband was laid off almost a month ago and we're relying solely on my income and making it (barely) but still making it. My husband stays at home with our son while I work for the time being while he's looking for another job but before he lost his job my Mom and brother stepped in on babysitting duties. So the babysitter would be covered. I take care of all the appointments, research, cooking and cleaning. I also lived on my own for 2 years before meeting my husband and learned how t! o do most household repairs, and gardening.. including lawn mowing. Th! e only thing I wouldn't be able to take are of would be the cars, but that's why we have mechanics right?! LOL!...Show more
Kalyn Proietto: Yeah its bad when you are over doing iT just try to do it once in a while!!that's better
Lucille Saetteurn: too much spoiling will her make a needy girl. she wont understand the effort you make to get her that. she wont be grateful bcs she will think its normal and be sad later when she learns she have to work for everything and nothing comes for free. she will also be uncapable to wait for something, be not flexible and sometimes it will make her a sad depressed woman. sad, parents want to do everything so little girl is happy but later she will be unhappy... im sorry to say you that. Please stop with it. it will be hard and she will nag much for a while and say you are a bad mother.. dont worry this is only a trick.. you are a worried mother who wants best for her child but its better for her later. let her get everything! on occations.. good grades, santa, working for mamma, ......Show more
Jodie Capella: It decreases spending especially in high school. In girls especially where one tries to outwear the other. NO 120$ pair of Nike shoes..or PUMA shoes. 80$ paif of jeans. They dont require any of it... Its far less competitve. Regular schools you have to follow the trend of fashion which could run you more.. my daughter states" i get up in the morning and dont have to worry what to wear.When she first mentioned I want to go to a uniformed school. I thought GOD this is going to be expensive. Turns out TOPMARKS is one the best suppliers and cost around the same as back to school shopping at Walmart or Sears. When you start getting in to "le chateau" garage, the adidas store...eekSo back to school//My son elementary school ( non- uniform) 400$ clothing... My daughter... high school .200$ that for a few new shirts, pants and another sweater, new quilt.)EDIT ; Now of course she want Mac w! ear... which is dressdown school issued.. the track pants and sweater c! ost 85$... I told her keep your grades up this term and we will get them.. Of course she offered to pay for half with what little babysitting money and allowance that she has...Show more
Damaris Weiler: No I ain't trying to buy my daughters love, I just like buying her the things she's likes and wants. Is spoiling her bad?
Lynn Melbourne: Yes it's bad and you will soon come to regret it. She'll soon learn that if she wants something, you'll get it for her. She'll then learn that things have no money value and if you can't get what she wants, she'll start using emotional blackmail.It's ok to buy a few things here and there without any reason but be careful that it really is a one off. KD...Show more
Darnell Cutliff: I already do most of that, plus I was a single parent when i met my husband, and i must say I'm fairly mechanically inclined...it wouldnt be a LOT different for me, the only responsibility my husband has is keeping a good job to support the fam! ily, and he works away from home for a lot of it.He on the other hand, would be completely lost and would have to depend on family members to do most of the domestic stuff around here.i feel you on that one tartism,,,ive got mine spoiled aso hes almost like having another kid around when hes home, but hes gone so much i dont really mind it, i make his plate at meal time, bring him his coffee/drinks, even get his clothes together in the morning, just like i would the kids lol..it sounds worse when you put it in writing though haha......Show more
Kip Ockenfels: I had to wear school uniforms all throughout school (private school.) They were definitely not cheap as we had to purchase through the school (with a specific PJP embroidered on all the clothes.) I can imagine you can find cheap uniforms just as you can find cheap clothes. I've never had to shop for uniforms so I don't really know. It makes the mornings go a little smoother though. Never have to worry about w! hat your child is going to wear....Show more
Maria Devenney: Incre! ased spending in my opinion. Rarely are the uniforms ever cheap and having to create two wardrobes is a drain on the finances. But I don't give in to demands for high price, name brand clothing either. My boy knows he can wear what I can afford (just made a killing at Kohl's the other day), buy from consignment shops or go naked. As a compromise I do go out of my way to find bargains in clothing that he likes.
Betsey Muehlbach: Just what we need, another entitled liberal.
Travis Sherrock: I would be prepared only because I was a single mother for 5 years before I married my husband and pretty much did everything and still do. My husband is not very handy and we have to rely on professionals to do our repairs. He does cut the grass however and thought I have never cut the grass or made an attempt I'm sure I could get it done.
Timmy Bustard: A second wardrobe, that they only wear to school, does not save money. It doesn't just increase spending, it's waste! ful. IMOETA: It's a second wardrobe for my kids. They change as soon as they get home from school. That's 2 outfits a day, except on weekends when they don't wear...the uniforms.
Randolph Lozoya: School uniforms would not save money. I can buy school clothes for my children at Goodwill or Reuzit for really cheap, whereas I am sure uniforms from the more expensive places are not cheap.
Rickey Vrieze: I already do most of everything anyway. I wait on him hand and foot and take care of the kids, so it'd be easier on me in the operational sense.
Peter Lapoint: well there's nothing you can do. parents are like that. whether you think it's fair or not doesn't matter. if they want to punish you that way, they willat least you still have your laptop
Elva Batie: yes, thats a bit much, but the real question IS:How much lip and attitude did you give them when they asked you to remove it nicely?
Lorelei Lilburn: Way over the top, unless it's something your! constantly reminded of over and over again. Or did you give them some ! serious attitude when they told you to remove it?
Glynda Darrin: Personally i dont think that it would be that hard, i was a single mother when i met me husband, plus i pretty much take care of everything around here i like to be independent!. The only thing that would be really messed up would be id hafta get a job be my hubby supports us all and im a stay at home mom of three!@
Bell Pasco: As a mother, I can tell you that it's bad. I know from your heart you love her dearly and you want to make sure that she has everything that she wants.I too did this with my son all of his life and for a few years after being on his own, he had no concept of what a dollar is worth. He would buy himself all kinds of stuff because he felt entitled. My big mistake was to never make him work for anything himself.My niece has an 8 year old daughter who wanted to give her cousin a doll for her birthday. My niece wouldn't give her the money unless she worked for it. She had to cle! an their car and every day she did it, she was paid a dollar. She saved up the $29.00 and bought the doll.My son never even had to clean his room. I did it all. I guess because I didn't have anything as a child, I was going to make sure my son had everything but if I could go back in time, I would never do it again....Show more
Cordia Fivecoat: You don't need two whole wardrobes. You are just replacing several items in their wardrobe with uniforms. Then some play clothes for after school (which you would have anyway) and a few nice things for church (which you would have anyway) and some casual stuff for the weekends (which you would have anyway). You actually end up buying a lot less clothing on the whole becasue you can wash and re-wear and nobody knows.ETA: here, the public school uniforms can be purchased at Walmart, Target, or even Goodwill. The Walmart here stocks all the polos for $4 a piece. How is that expensive? The have all the uniforms at Target too, not s! ure of the price, but maybe a little higher than Walmart. I think the p! ants are like $10-12? We are not talking about private school uniforms which ARE expensive and have to be ordered form a specific vendor (I know becasue I have to buy them). With the public school uniforms, the school boards do a very good job to make sure they are affordable. If your schools do not require uniforms, then you won't see them in the stores near you, but if they ever do switch, the stores know it, and bam! overnight they all stock uniforms.ETA: The schools here actually make it very easy to get seocnd hand uniforms in good condition. Especially for younger kids as hey grow so fast. I got all of my son's uniforms used this year, and will likely pass them on tto little brother as well. Our school has a private uniform sale twice a year, but for the public schools, their uniforms can be found at Goodwill, or even on craigslist....Show more
Claudio Drullard: Absolutely.Except for the home maintenance part.
Particia Thorton: If it's all the time yes. Be! cause the child will be used to getting what they want and will expect it as they get older. The one time you say know they'll most definitely throw a fit. She'll always want something and if you spoil her too often she'll never REALLY appreciate what she has. Every once in a while is okay... but maybe you should only give her what she wants if she earns it by doing a good deed or a chore something like that. Not only will doing that teach her that she needs to earn what she is given, she grow up to be a very good, unspoiled person that treasures the things she has....Show more
Mel Crapo: Don't you think grounding your child for forgetting to remove the wii remote from a Guitar Hero guitar is a bit much? I mean they could have their phone taken away but I think being grounded is over the top! Well ha! I still have my laptop!
Lyman Gauld: I'd have to pick up the yard work duties (or hire someone, lol). There is more that he does but it's minor things that end up! being a whole lot (just helping out here and there in general). I'd c! all my dad to fix the toilet or check out that noise my car is making. (Those are the things I noticed during deployment & it would be the same if I had to do it on my own again.)ETA: You know what's funny? I used to complain (to myself) that he didn't do anything. He's always sitting aroung watching TV, etc. Then, he left for a year and I realized how much he really does do. I think sometimes we tend to take things for granted....Show more
