Stan Conley: I personally think it was very, plainly, dumb of you two move in with someone who is not legally divorced. I feel like the situation could wind both of you up in some serious problems.The fact that she isn't readily filing those divorce papers speaks a lot. Maybe SHE is the one who hasn't gotten over him yet. Remember, they have been together for 8 years. Youve been with her for 8 months?Unwise....Show more
Amina Motzer: I guess if it's the money that is holding her back from getting it done . then You will just have to come up with then money! She knows that it bothers you more so she will that that be so that you will pay for it IDK Sorry for my crappy advise!
Idell Syed: If he is so toxic why would she want to continue being connected to him? Many lawyers will take a payment plan for divorce. I was in a similar situation (separated and living with my BF) while my divorce was going through. I know it bothered him as well, and I had already filed! the papers. The lawyer will be able to divide any assets and set up child support which may actually help your financial situation. It is just a piece of paper, but to me she is saying that you are not worth her divorcing the husband. Divorce is hard and messy, I know, but she will be so glad once it's over with. Good luck!!...Show more
Edmund Rappley: To clairfy a couple of things:They were together for eight years, during which he spent most of the time ignoring her while he played video games. She left him once, he swore he would change, things got better for a little while and she decided to have a child with him. Then he went back to spending all of his time with the video games, ignoring both of them. They hadn't been intimate for months before she left the second time. I'm his polar opposite, and she's not going back.She expects a huge conflict when the papers actually get filed, which she's not looking forward to. I think she's gotten complacent with the situ! ation, and I'm looking for ways to motivate her. Commenting on! the wisdom of our moving in together is all well and good, but it's quite useless to me. If you have any actual advice to offer on the situation, it would be appreciated....Show more
Mandy Mustaro: you are playing with a married woman, I think someday she will go back to him.If she was really into you, she would have filed for divorce, but she really has 2 men in her life.
Luis Mellon: I will not call you dumb (like some people on here) for moving in with a married woman. I will tell you from experience that I was separated from my husband for quite a while with absolutely no contact between us. I met someone I really cared for. He had the same concerns you did. Why after so long were we not pursuing a divorce? I had a lot of excuses. I haven't had the time, although I retained an attorney, I don't have money to keep giving him, it's not a big deal. Blah blah blah. The truth was, the reason my husband and I never followed through with a divorce is because deep ! down we still loved each other. We eventually reconciled and have been happy ever since. I realize this is not what you want to hear, but keep in mind that it is a possibility....Show more
Sharolyn Claybourn: I dont know. I mean if you have voiced this to her before and she is ignoring it??? Is it because of her money situation? I mean a cheap divorce with a child involved can still get up to 3000 dollars just to figure out the parenting plan and support... Why not ask her if she isn't filing because of money. If she says yes than tell her you will help her with it (if you can) so it will get done. Maybe that will show her how important that little divorce decree is.EDIT*** Listen if she is worried about the conflict when it gets filed. Well the sooner she does it the better. One the child is young enough that he wont remember all the bad stuff that may happen. Secondly, There is no divorce and they are still married. Which means that he does not have to give her s! on back if he doesn't want to. They have no paperwork stating anything ! regarding the child. And if he wants to get at her. He can by keeping their son. She could call the cops but he has done nothing wrong keeping the kid...So if that doesn't motivate her...Hell what will???...Show more
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